I have been working remotely for almost three years now, and I need to tell you one thing – staying at home by myself didn’t do any good to me nor my business. There were days when I felt low, frustrated, left with my doubts, and challenges on my own although I talked to the clients and team members all day long on the phone, email, skype, zoom, Telegram, Slack, you name it. Something was missing in the equation.
Sometimes I would search for the right place with a ‘perfect aura’ in the house for a while before commencing my work – it could be my office (there are waaaay too many screens and my husband’s tech stuff there), it could be the kitchen (the main distractor happened to be the plants that were secretly calling for my attention and water), it could be the living room with its comfy couch that encouraged naps that only made me feel super lazy…
At some point, I realized that I do much less during the times when I stay home for work in comparison to when I go somewhere, change the environment to get a laser focus on my projects.
At home, I would get distracted by some chores that potentially needed immediate action, a new book I bought, and I have been dying to start reading. Sometimes I would begin indulging myself in some self- sabotaging and counterproductive activities like replying to not that important emails or tackling something I should have outsourced a long time ago.
It all belongs to the past, though. It didn’t support my goals nor business; hence, it had to come to an end.
I was thinking about doing something about it for a while, and then I realized that if there is no action following my thinking process, it’s all pipe dream.
I didn’t want to stay forever in the ‘I will find an office one day’ zone, as it was draining, unnecessary and got in the way of achieving what I had planned for the day.
How did I solve this challenge of mine? It happened in a few steps.
I started going to the gym in the morning instead of leaving it for the evenings. I hit the gym at 6:30 am, and after I am done, it already feels that I left home (which I did) and did something productive. Then, staying at home by myself for the rest of my day became a whole new experience, a better one. You don’t need to be that drastic all at once. Perhaps going for a short 30-minute walk in the morning before you start your day would work for you?
I decided not to stay home 5 days a week. I picked 3 days when I drove to a café and worked from there for 2-3 hours per day. I didn’t want to stay there for 8 hours, but believe me, being around people even without chatting with them was a 180-degree shift to my mind. After coming back home, my energy was already elevated!
I joined a co-working space, which happened to be a game-changer. I can work from multiple locations (as It’s a chain); there are other professionals around me, occasionally I even get my problem solved after having a chat with someone at lunchtime. Magic happens when you open up and see opportunities whatever place you go, let it be a co-working space.
I committed to having a little chat with at least 1 RANDOMLY selected person per day. Phone calls don’t count. I run my business 100% on-line so it would be too easy. I started talking to cashiers, people in elevators, people waiting at the street-lights, those pouring their morning coffee at the co-working kitchen… Although I was paralyzed to interact with total strangers at first as I much prefer talking with people I already know or do business with rather than ‘aliens’, I just went for it. It worked. It really did. There is something magical about having a conversation with another human being. It’s a process of exchanging energy; you should start practicing to feel the difference.
I started reaching out to other coaches to get support and feel connected. Yes, even a coach needs another coach to stay on track. It’s like finding an angel investor who pumps money into your company or finding a personal trainer who will push you to your limits when you think there is no energy left to help you get things done.
Do whatever works for you, but remember one thing – if something doesn’t serve you, you need to change it.
Surrounding yourself with the four walls instead of people who can support you is a self-sabotaging strategy that may slow down your business. Besides that, you never know if your next prominent investor or a customer don’t come from one of those little chats in the co-working kitchen or cafes…